Attractive people are attractive. However, there seems to be an expectation that when you have a significant other (SO) you aren't supposed to think that anyone else is attractive any more. I'm wondering what are people's True Thoughts on this. The question comes from two angles - what do you really feel when you see attractive people who aren't your SO, and what do you really feel about your SO's hypothetical answer to the same question? Say, if you have an SO, and suddenly got the opportunity to go on a date with (insert your secret crush or sexy neighbour here), would you honestly in your heart of hearts not want to, or would you think something like "well, obviously I'd want to, but on balance I prefer my life now to how it would be if I wrecked it by accepting that date", or are you blatantly like "I'd go on the date and hope my SO doesn't find out."? Similarly, if your SO is attracted to someone else, how does that make you feel? Is it "yeah, this can happen, and I'm fine as long as they don't actually run off with anyone", or "it doesn't bother me as long as it's only for an abstract figure like a movie star rather than anyone in real life", or "I understand that this can happen in theory, but I'd prefer to maintain an unspoken masquerade where neither of us ever mention other people in that way", or "the thought that this may be a possibility drives me crazy and I will berate my SO for hours if they so much as hint that there is anyone on this earth who arouses their interest besides me."? Personally I've never met a woman who caused me to lose interest in all other women, and I don't particularly care what my SO thinks about other people. However, women I've been involved with have had quite different views on this subject, and at times I've had to pretend to not be attracted to anyone else, and also to pretend to be jealous, since that seemed to be the main criteria they used to gauge my interest in them. As a result I've pretty much given up on the idea of having an SO any more, because all the pretending isn't worth the hassle and also it makes me feel like kind of a dick. A lot of popular media implies that it's quite normal to become obsessed with someone to the exclusion of all others. So I don't think everyone else is pretending in similar circumstances. Some of them must actually mean it. Though on the other hand given the amount of cheating that goes on there must be some degree to which people pretend. Since you guys are obviously a good representative cross-section of society, I thought I'd determine the numbers by asking here. Though if you have an SO who might read the forum then you can't answer honestly, unless your honest answer is that you only have eyes for them, but then I won't know whether that's part of the masquerade or not. So basically this entire exercise is pointless. Fine, forget I asked. Geez.